Completely Transform Your Life with Tarot

By Alex Raven

Tarot has completely transformed my life. I say it from my heart and from my own experience. I discovered tarot when I was just 12 years old, at a time when I was an anxious child, carrying traumas and abuse that no kid should ever go through. Back then, the cards weren’t just a game or a curiosity. They became my shield and my weapon. They gave me hope when I felt I had none, they helped me hold on to my self-worth, and they kept me believing that no matter what others thought or said, I would go far in life.

For me, tarot isn’t just about “predicting the future.” It’s an incredibly powerful tool for making strategic choices, for building your career, for creating success, and for completely changing the direction of your life. Tarot doesn’t just show you where you’re heading, it helps you rewrite that path, move faster, go further, and reach your deepest desires in ways you might never have imagined.

And today, I want to share with you the secrets I’ve learned along the way,  the ones I wish someone had told me when I was younger. This is not just about tarot. It’s about transformation, healing, and learning to believe in yourself no matter what.

Honesty and Sincerity

Honesty is one of the most valuable things we can cultivate in life. At the same time, honesty has two faces: it can hurt us, even break us, but it can also heal us and push us toward transformation. It can reveal our potential.

As human beings, we carry this deep desire for someone to come and rescue us. From our problems, from our traumas, from all the pain we’ve been through. But the hard truth, one that many of us eventually face, is that no one is coming to save us. The only person who can truly save us is ourselves.

I’ll be real with you. It took me a long time to accept that truth. I had no parents to guide me responsibly or cared enough to show me the way. I had to discover it all on my own. Maybe you’ve had supportive parents or encouraging people around you, and that’s a blessing. But even then, no matter the support, you still have to do the work yourself. Nobody can walk the entire road for you.

When you lack support, you must create it. 

And here’s where I see the tarot: like an honest friend. A friend that doesn’t sugarcoat, but tells you the truth straight to your face, though only if you’re ready to hear it. Too often, we interpret the cards in the way we want to hear them. But true divination is not about comfort; it’s about truth.

If you sit down for a tarot reading, you need to accept that what you hear may hurt, may make you uncomfortable, may even scare you. But here’s what I’ve realized: Pain and discomfort are often the gateways to growth. 

Think about it, how many times did your parents or close ones warn you, “Don’t do this, do it that way,” and you ignored them? And only when you went through the painful consequences yourself did you finally understand. 

It’s the same with life and the same with tarot. We often learn best when the truth hits us where it hurts. And that’s when real change happens.

Rewire Your Thinking

Life isn’t always kind. In fact, for many of us, it feels more cruel than good. And yet, perspective changes everything. The way you choose to see your life, your past, and even your pain, can either destroy you or empower you.

We are often our own harshest critics. 

We love ourselves the most, but at the same time, we also tear ourselves down the most. We overthink, we put unbearable pressure on our shoulders, and we let fear stop us from taking action. But here’s the truth: fear itself is not the enemy. Fear is a signal. And you are not the only one who feels it. Fear, is also a teacher. I was afraid to even write these words.

But then I asked myself: Do I want to keep freezing in place, or do I want to move forward and turn my dreams into reality? The fear of doing nothing terrified me more than the fear of speaking out.

For years, I treated my past as something to hide, as if ignoring it would erase it. But shifting my perspective taught me that my past is part of who I am today. Every painful event, every loss, every struggle shaped me into who I’ve become. And you need to hear this too: your past, no matter how bad, gave you strength that many others don’t have.

Let’s say someone you love walks out of your life. That pain is real, and I know it well. I’ve been abandoned by people I loved deeply, and it tore me apart. But once the initial suffering passed, I realized something: I am worthy of love that does not leave. I deserve people who stand by me in my worst days, not just my brightest ones. That shift in perspective changed everything. What feels like a curse in the moment often reveals itself to be a blessing later.

As a child, I used to ask myself: Why are we poor? Why do we sometimes have no food? Why wasn’t I born into a rich family? It felt cruel. But growing older, I realized those hardships gave me a gift: independence. They taught me that no one was coming to save me, and that I had to be responsible for myself.

That realization gave me strength no amount of comfort could ever give. Because when you’ve survived lack, you also learn resilience, resourcefulness, and grit.

Now, let’s bring this back to the tarot. Tarot can be a powerful tool for changing your perspective. It’s not about predicting your future, it’s about asking the right questions that unlock clarity. Instead of asking “Why me?”, you can ask:

• Why did this person leave my life?

  
  
  
  

• What do I stand to gain now that they’re gone?

  
  
  
  

• How can I use this pain creatively?

  
  
  
  

• What parts of myself need healing right now?

  
  
  
  

• How can I treat myself with more kindness in this moment?

  
  
  
  

• How can I fill the emptiness I feel with something that nourishes me?

  
  
  
  

Tarot won’t sugarcoat its answers. It will show you where you’re resisting change and where you need to shift your thinking. If you’re willing to listen with an open heart, it can help you turn your fears and wounds into wisdom and strength.

Relationships

Relationships, whether platonic, romantic, or sexual, shape our lives in profound ways. But when it comes to romantic love, the stakes feel higher, and that’s where we often get tangled up in illusions, fears, and unhealed wounds.

When we turn to the tarot with questions about love, those questions don’t come from simple curiosity. They come from our deepest insecurities, from our longing for validation, from our fear of rejection. I’ve been there myself, asking the cards over and over if someone liked me, and when the answer was “no,” twisting it into a “yes” because I was too afraid to face the truth.

But here’s the thing: tarot is not meant to feed our illusions. It’s meant to show us the truth. And if we ignore that truth, we stay trapped in the same cycles. Many times, what we think is love is actually just a hunger for validation. Someone gives us a compliment, shows us a little kindness, and suddenly we become obsessed, because deep down, we’re not used to being seen, and that tiny drop of attention feels like water in a desert.

I want to tell you something I wish I had heard when I was younger: kindness is not the same as love. A person can be friendly, gentle, even caring, but that doesn’t mean they love you. Love is not cheap, and it’s not instant. Real love is proven over time. It shows itself in consistency, in presence, in how someone stands beside you not only when you’re glowing but also when you’re broken.

Too many people throw the word “love” around as if it were nothing more than “hello.”

 But love is sacred. It is profound. It means someone celebrates your joys, shares your burdens, and honors who you are at your core. If someone truly loves you, you won’t have to overanalyze it, you will feel it.

That said, there’s an important nuance: sometimes, people do love us, but because we don’t love ourselves, we can’t recognize or receive that love. More often, though, when love feels absent, it’s because it really isn’t there. Either way, relationships demand time, boundaries, respect, reciprocity, and honesty. Anything less, and you’re just filling an empty space rather than building a foundation.

Not Everyone Will Like You

One of the most liberating truths you can accept is this: it is completely human, and completely okay, for people not to like you. Their dislike does not automatically mean there is something wrong with you.

Right now, as I share my passion for tarot, magic, and Romanian folklore, both online and in real life, I know there are people who won’t like me. Not because I’ve harmed them or done anything wrong, but simply because my presence, my voice, or my energy doesn’t resonate with them. And that’s fine.

You have to remember this: your worth does not shrink just because someone else cannot see it. You are just as valuable, just as human, just as special whether someone approves of you or not. When you catch yourself thinking “They don’t like me, maybe I’m not good enough,” stop. Look in the mirror and remind yourself: My value does not depend on their opinion. My value belongs with people who can see it, who appreciate it, and who truly deserve me.

And let’s be honest, we all have people we simply don’t like. Not because they’ve wronged us, not because they’ve done anything bad, but because something about them doesn’t click with us. It happens. It’s natural. And just as we don’t like everyone, we cannot expect everyone to like us.

Once you accept this, you free yourself. You stop chasing universal approval and start focusing on building connections with those who genuinely see you. That’s where your energy belongs, with people who meet you with respect, appreciation, and love.

Now, how can we use the tarot to bring clarity into relationships? It starts with asking the right questions, not “Does this person love me?” but:

• How does this person handle conflict?

  
  
  
  

• Are they responsible and considerate of others’ needs?

  
  
  
  

• How do they express love? How do they receive it?

  
  
  
  

• What happens when things aren’t going well, do they stay, or do they run?

  
  
  
  

• Are we truly compatible, beyond attraction?

  
  
  
  

• What strengths do we bring to each other, and what challenges might hold us back?

  
  
  
  

• What lessons am I meant to learn from this connection?

  
  
  
  

• Is this a temporary chapter or a long-term partner?

  
  
  
  

• How do both of our past traumas influence this relationship?

  
  
  
  

• What boundaries do we need to set for this to thrive?

  
  
  
  

• Is this relationship worth continuing, or giving a second chance?

  
  
  
  

Tarot doesn’t just answer; it invites reflection. And when used honestly, it can help you see whether someone is aligned with your highest good, or whether they’re simply here to teach you a lesson about self-respect.

Self-Love and the Relationship With Yourself

Self-love is one of the most valuable forces you can cultivate in this life. And yet, so many people misunderstand it. Too often, when you set boundaries or stand up for yourself, others label you as “selfish” or even “narcissistic.” But let’s be clear: defending your worth is not narcissism. Narcissism is a psychological disorder, not a synonym for self-respect.

In many cultures, especially in Eastern Europe, where I grew up, we are conditioned to care far too much about what others think. “What will the neighbors say?” becomes a prison. We’re told we must please everyone, fit in, and never disturb the peace. But here’s the truth: living a life for others, while abandoning yourself, is soul-crushing.

Self-love means saying: “I don’t deserve this treatment. I deserve better. Goodbye, forever.” It means looking at your imperfections honestly, not to shame yourself, but to accept them as part of your humanity. None of us are saints. None of us are perfect. And that’s okay. Real growth begins when you stop hiding from your flaws and instead learn to work with them.

It’s also about balance. You are not here to be a people pleaser, always available, always saying “yes” out of fear of rejection. But you also are not here to live in the opposite extreme, where you believe only you matter and you carry no responsibility for others. We are humans, born into community, and our healing and growth often come through relationships. The balance is this: honor yourself without neglecting respect for others.

And remember: saying “no” is not selfish. You are not obligated to remain in relationships where you’re only valued in times of urgency, or where people never truly see or respect you. Love yourself enough to walk away.

In my own life, I’ve had to cut ties with people I cared about deeply because they betrayed my trust or disrespected me. Forgiveness can exist from a distance. You can wish someone well, even be there for them in a crisis, without allowing them full access to your heart again. That’s self-love in action.

Now, how does tarot help here? By guiding us into the right questions, questions that uncover the roots of our insecurities, patterns, and wounds. It helps us stop projecting and start reflecting.

Here are some powerful tarot questions for self-love and self-relationship:

• What triggers my insecurities, and how can I manage them?

  
  
  
  

• Are these emotions truly mine, or are they caused by the way others treat me?

  
  
  
  

• What negative traits or patterns within myself need my acceptance and healing?

  
  
  
  

• How can I show myself more kindness and compassion right now?

  
  
  
  

• What boundaries do I need to set with others to protect my peace?

  
  
  
  

• How can I fall back in love with myself?

  
  
  
  

• What part of my self-worth have I abandoned, and how can I reclaim it?

  
  
  
  

• How can I manage guilt when I say “no”?

  
  
  
  

• Where does my need to always say “yes” to others come from?

  
  
  
  

• Which passions or joys from my past can I return to in order to nourish my spirit?

  
  
  
  

• What practices will strengthen my relationship with myself?

  
  
  
  

• How can I better regulate my emotions when I feel overwhelmed?

  
  
  
  

• How can I treat myself with the same patience I offer others?

  
  
  
  

• In what ways am I sabotaging my own growth?

  
  
  
  

• What small daily actions will reinforce my self-esteem?

  
  

  What core belief do I hold about myself that limits my self-love?

  
  
  
  

• How does my inner child need to be cared for right now?

  
  
  
  

• What role does shame play in how I see myself, and how can I release it?

  
  
  
  

• How can I integrate the parts of me I repress into my wholeness?

  
  
  
  

• How can I learn to celebrate progress, not just perfection?

  
  
  
  

• What parts of me am I afraid to show others, and why?

  
  
  
  

• How can I balance self-compassion with accountability?

  
  
  
  

• What lessons from my past relationships (romantic, family, or friendships) can I use to deepen my self-love?

  
  
  
  

• What does my authentic self need that I’ve been denying?

  
  
  
  

• How can I redefine success and happiness for myself, without external validation?

  
  
  
  

Your Perspective on Money and Success

I want to talk about your mindset when it comes to success, achievements, career, and everything that has to do with building something for yourself. I believe I’m the right person to speak about this because I started practicing magic and tarot as a simple passion, as a refuge from my own traumas, and later it became my career.

At first, when I began practicing tarot and magic, I didn’t have anyone to support me or encourage me. I had Christians around me telling me it was a sin, that these things weren’t real, that I’d go to hell. But ever since I was a child, I was extremely ambitious. No matter how many hardships I went through, when it came to the present moment I often felt awful and hopeless, but when it came to the distant future, I always knew I would build something amazing for myself.

It was shocking to realize that I actually made it. There were times in my life when I wanted to die, when I thought there was no hope for me. I was on antidepressants from a very young age. Even psychiatrists and psychologists told me I’d be dependent on pills for the rest of my life, that even if I improved, life would always be difficult. Some laughed at me because I dropped out of high school after being bullied for being gay. I didn’t feel safe there, and I wanted to pursue my passion and turn it into a career.

Those so-called professionals didn’t take me seriously. Yet, at 13, 14, 15 years old, I was doing readings for people in their 30s and beyond, people who did take me seriously, who paid me, who thanked me, who believed in my gift. That gave me incredible strength.

Now, the same people who laughed at me back then, old friends, acquaintances,  come begging me for discounts or free readings. And here I am, making more money than many of them.

 I want to tell you this: if you have a dream, as long as you believe in yourself and work hard, without listening to people’s judgments, you can achieve it.

But let me make something clear:  In order to evolve, you also need constructive criticism. Sometimes people have a harsh tone or speak bluntly, but that doesn’t always mean they’re judging you. And yes, some people judge out of malice, but sometimes there’s still a grain of truth in what they say. It’s important to analyze, to allow yourself to make mistakes, to let go of perfectionism, and to learn from both positive and negative feedback.

Success starts with your own inner voice. You need to know what you want in life, what you’re passionate about, and pursue it no matter what others say.

Changing Your Perspective on Money

Discipline matters. Setting boundaries matters. Working hard matters. But above all, your perspective about money must change.

We live in a deeply unfair society. I don’t agree that anyone should have to work just to have life’s bare minimum. In my heart, I believe everyone deserves food, water, and the simple pleasures of life without having to fight for them. But the reality is different. Complaining doesn’t change anything.

I used to blame capitalism, the system, everyone else. But one day I told myself: Yes, the world is unfair. But I refuse to live a life where I just complain. Either I make money and lift myself and my family out of poverty, or I stay stuck. The choice is mine.

And I want to tell you something powerful: good people have a responsibility to become wealthy. I’m not wealthy yet, but I know I will be. And when I get there, I will use my money to do good, because generosity has been part of me since I was little.

You must learn balance, giving, but also receiving. When I used to give too much to others and ignored myself, money seemed to run away from me. But when I started buying myself small things, listening to my heart, treating myself with love, money flowed back in.

We need to heal the way we look at money. In Romania and Eastern Europe, we were raised with the belief that money is “the devil’s eye,” that it’s something bad. But money is dual. It can destroy, or it can build. It can enslave, or it can liberate.

Money is just a tool, a piece of paper. If tomorrow all banks decided it has no value, it would mean nothing. What matters is the freedom money brings. Freedom to leave abusive situations. Freedom to protect yourself and your loved ones. Freedom to live your truth.

That’s why I also warn you about relationships: never depend fully on someone else’s money. Have your own. Protect yourself. My mother was financially abused, trapped because of money. Many men pick poor women because they know they’ll be dependent. Don’t ever let that be your story.

Your dreams are never too big. If someone else did it, so can you. Yes, privilege exists. Some start ahead of us. But history is full of people who came from nothing, no house, no money, only pain and built extraordinary lives. You can too.

Surround yourself with supportive people. Be patient with your career. We’d all love to snap our fingers and have it all tomorrow, but that’s not how life works. Growth takes time. Mistakes are valuable. They teach us. They shape us. Nobody is born knowing it all.

Tarot Questions for Money & Success

Here are some powerful questions you can ask the tarot to help you transform your relationship with money, career, and abundance:

1. What limiting beliefs do I hold about money and success, and how can I release them?

   
   
   
   

2. What kind of relationship have I built with money throughout my life, and how can I heal it?

   
   
   
   

3. Where am I wasting energy, time, or resources that could be invested in my growth?

   
   
   
   

4. What type of work or career will bring me both abundance and fulfillment?

   
   
   
   

5. What habits or mindsets must I let go of in order to attract prosperity?

   
   
   
   

6. How can I balance generosity towards others with generosity towards myself?

   
   
   
   

7. What blocks me from feeling worthy of wealth, and how can I overcome that?

   
   
   
   

8. How can I use money as a tool for freedom and not as a source of fear?

   
   
   
   

9. What lessons about self-worth are tied to the way I handle money?

   
   
   
   

10. How can I align my financial goals with my higher purpose?

    
    
    
    

Conclusion & Ending: 

Thank you for reading. I’m Alex Raven, and from the bottom of my heart I want to tell you this: 

I believe in you. No matter what you’ve been through, no matter the cruelty you’ve suffered or the mistakes you regret, you are worthy of kindness, respect, and a life that brings you joy.

Be gentle with yourself. Prioritize your needs. Prioritize your emotions. Choose the people you let close with care. Protect your energy by setting clear boundaries. You don’t owe anyone constant availability or explanation, saying “no” is not cruelty, it’s self-respect.

Surround yourself with people who celebrate you, who lift you up, and who hold you accountable with love.

If you’re hurting now, that’s okay. If you’re depressed, confused, or lost, that’s okay too. Healing is not a straight line, and progress can be quiet and slow. Give yourself time. Start small: practice saying no, carve out five minutes a day to breathe, or call one person who makes you feel seen. Tiny habits build a new life. The changes you want will come step by step, not overnight, and that’s how real, lasting transformation happens.

Don’t let anyone tell you your dreams are too big. If someone else has done it, you can too. Privilege changes the path, not the possibility. Work hard, learn from criticism that helps you grow, but ignore the cruel opinions that only try to shrink you. Keep your passion alive. Treat your gifts like seeds: water them, protect them, and have faith they will grow.

Money and success are tools, not the enemy. Use them to buy freedom, safety, and the ability to help others. Learn to give, and learn to receive. Build strength so you can protect yourself and the people you love. And when you make it, use your abundance with generosity, the world needs people who use their success for good.

I also want to say something about tarot, because it’s part of this journey for many of us. The tarot I’ve spoken about in this article is a practical, honest tool: it can sharpen your critical thinking, encourage you to form and trust your own opinions, and help you grow. Think of it as a sincere friend who points out what you might be avoiding and hands you clarity when you need it. Importantly, tarot’s greatest gift is temporary empowerment,  it guides you in the moment as you build a more positive, ambitious mindset. Over time, as you practice, reflect, and act, you’ll find you rely on it less because you’ve internalized the lessons. Tarot should not become your only crutch; it is a guide, not a permanent substitute for your own inner strength.

If you ever need to talk, ask for advice, or just want someone to listen,  my messages are open. You can find me at Ravestonia.com for tarot readings, rituals, or just to connect. It costs nothing to send a message; reach out and I’ll do my best to reply. I would be honored to listen, because I wished for someone like that when I was younger, and now I want to be that for you.

Remember: you are allowed to be imperfect. You are allowed to be human. Love yourself through the messy parts and the beautiful parts. Be patient. Be brave. Be kind to the person staring back at you in the mirror. Build the life that makes you proud to wake up every morning.

I love you. I believe in you. Thank you for spending this time with me, it means more than you know.

With all my heart,

Alex Raven